Only Kindness Matters

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My last blog post title was “in the end” and it was more a reference to the Jewel song “Hands” than to the end of life. I chose that title because kindness is something denied to many people in the face of brain cancer.

The patient may become so agitated that the caregivers struggle with kindness. That sounds horrible to people who haven’t gone through it, but it is human nature. It is exceedingly difficult to be nice to someone who is being abusive to you. You can’t reason with them. You can’t make them happy. You just have to suffer the abuse and keep trying to be kind in return.

I will say that we did not have this issue with David. He was possibly the kindest soul I have ever encountered and not even brain cancer made him mean. I can’t tell you what a blessing it was to know that his sweet personality stayed with him to the end. So many people are denied that simple thing. They have to watch their loved ones transform into another person that they don’t even recognize. It’s so unfair that I can’t even put it to words, so I’ll leave you with the song that was on my mind as I wrote.

“Hands” by Jewel:
If I could tell the world just one thing
It would be that we’re all OK
And not to worry ’cause worry is wasteful
And useless in times like these

I won’t be made useless
I won’t be idle with despair
I will gather myself around my faith
For light does the darkness most fear

My hands are small, I know
But they’re not yours, they are my own
But they’re not yours, they are my own
And I am never broken

Poverty stole your golden shoes
It didn’t steal your laughter
And heartache came to visit me
But I knew it wasn’t ever after

We’ll fight, not out of spite
For someone must stand up for what’s right
‘Cause where there’s a man who has no voice
There ours shall go singing

My hands are small I know
But they’re not yours, they are my own
But they’re not yours, they are my own
I am never broken

In the end only kindness matters
In the end only kindness matters
I will get down on my knees, and I will pray
I will get down on my knees, and I will pray
I will get down on my knees, and I will pray

My hands are small I know
But they’re not yours, they are my own
But they’re not yours, they are my own
And I am never broken

My hands are small I know
But they’re not yours, they are my own
But they’re not yours, they are my own
And I am never broken
We are never broken

We are God’s eyes
God’s hands
God’s mind
We are God’s eyes
God’s hands
God’s heart
We are God’s eyes
God’s hands
God’s eyes
We are God’s hands
We are God’s hands

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