It’s World Cancer Day, a time when lots of people are thinking about prevention and cures. I think it is a very hopeful day, when we can rally together and bring awareness to a disease that plagues our society. I’m completely convinced that we could rid the planet of this disease within our lifetime, and I’m heartened to hear more and more people uttering similar beliefs.
At the moment, though, the disease is at large. We never know who might get it or when. My son was 16 at diagnosis but became an adult (18) while fighting brain cancer. He went from a child that we made decisions for to a young man who should have made his own decisions. But cancer was undermining his decision making process. He struggled to make sense out of things that would have been simple for him a few months earlier. He was smart, but cancer robbed him of his confidence. His own mind played tricks on him, and he wasn’t sure of himself. It was a scary time for all of us, and though he was a technically an adult, we still made decisions for him to the best of our abilities. It’s hard to know what another person truly thinks – even if it is your child or your spouse. You do your best, but it is hard to keep the doubts at bay. The best step to avoid this situation is to be proactive. Make a plan before you need it, and you can be more at ease during life’s most difficult times.
I think most of us have the best of intentions when it comes to getting organized. We even take steps toward doing it. Some sort of filing system for your tax papers. Maybe a safe deposit box for important papers. But there are a lot of legal documents that most of us avoid. Wills. Advance Directives. Stuff that means not only are you an adult, but an adult who might one day die. Scary stuff. But it doesn’t have to be.
I found this really cool article from Everplan that walks you through a lot of those important adult things. It’s relatively painless, and it is super important. I talk to families all the time who spend grueling hours trying to decide what their loved one would have wanted if they could have decided for themselves. Brain cancer frequently steals away the ability to make good decisions – and it happens long before most people are prepared for it. So take a few minutes now, and check out this list. Make it a priority to work on it steadily for a few weeks, and before you know it, you’ll have all those “adult” things behind you.
Here’s the link:
By the way, I am not endorsing Everplan’s service and this is not an ad for them. I have not tried their service, so you’ll have to make your own decisions about that.